[mothballed]

3 means 3x the chance of them all being taken away when something goes wrong. 1 seems better if your goal is to have at least one child remaining in custody with you to age 18, since if anything goes wrong other than a provable unavoidable medical accident they're typically all seized.

[xyzelement]

This seems like an absolutely insane thing to optimize for but if this is anything like personal experience for you I am really sorry.