It should be, but it isn’t. Hence the reason “why can’t you just do what we asked” can often be followed by “then we will find someone who will” in the end.
Pushback is valuable until it becomes obstinance.
If we all somehow had their same crystal ball to know for certain that “stupid shower ideas” won’t work because a specific developer thinks they are bad, there wouldn’t be much need for R&D ever again. I suspect this developer doesn’t have one either, or I’d certainly like to buy it.
Those people generally are not eager for feedback especially if it's even remotely perceived as negative or some kind of gatekeeping.
The only way to avoid getting furious about this is to deeply understand that you can't require people to be properly self-aware, especially because many many people that checks the expert boxes are very incompetent or inadequate, so they when the come up with their half bake ideas, they delegate the other to deliver contrarian proofs. It's exhausting.
Pushback is valuable until it becomes obstinance.
If we all somehow had their same crystal ball to know for certain that “stupid shower ideas” won’t work because a specific developer thinks they are bad, there wouldn’t be much need for R&D ever again. I suspect this developer doesn’t have one either, or I’d certainly like to buy it.