[rcxdude]

Yeah, you can do it, but it's quite a painful process and as you noted it's quite hard to actually get the required information: you can predict the impedance at the chip's pads across frequency, but only with a full-fledged simulation of the PCB, and then you don't actually know what counts as good enough in most cases. What I'd like is something that's a little easier to analyse and visualise even if a little less precise. It feels like there should be a much simpler model which gives you a view of how the impedance changes as you move away from the capacitor so that you can evaluate the tradeoffs without needing to set up and wait for a whole simulation.

(especially because as I understand it, distance tends to matter a lot less than people expect, especially because once you're up at frequencies where it might matter, it's not so much the capacitors providing the decoupling as the power planes themselves anyhow)