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by muskstinks 75 days ago
Why?

And why do we evaluate this on something like hn?

Are you shaming a person for having sex or?

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A person expressing wonder at a surprising situation does not require shaming.

And yes, I think when a person finds themselves in a situation like this they should be examining their life choices.

I don't know why it's on hn though.

"they should be examining their life choices." based on your world view though. We became a very boring race only optimizing our lives for work. No alien race would look at us and think we are smart spending so much time doing things which do not add value to our society just because we can't organize ourselves better.

Just because we conditioned ourselves like this, doesn't mean its right or wrong.

And this article doesn't give us enough insight to even judge.

Birth control is not perfect. 99% is very little in comparision to the amount of sex happening in a population of 8 billion people.

"Amazing" is not necessarily a judgment, could in fact be congratulations or even judgment-free entirely just amazing story.
Right? Good for her/them, assuming everyone was consenting.
Not really, no.

Sex has consequences like these people are seeing.

Consenting people can still make mistakes and ruin relationships where if they had exercised better judgment they wouldn't have had problems.

A child has one biological mother and effectively two biological fathers.

A significant portion of the population have zero of one or both groups known.

The child will likely be just fine.

The sex part is a bit shame worthy I'd say.

But the part where this woman cannot identify the father is definitely worth shaming.

Consenting adults can have sex with each other. There's zero shame in that.

And though having these two partners was unwise for this reason, it's not really a matter of shame so much as one where we should just find a practical solution that doesnt mess with the kid.

No birth control is 100%. We live on a planet were very rare situations are getting published as 'news'. So the fact that you read this news, doesn't tell you anything shameful at all. You are just biased and don't even realise it.

And no you are not allowed to shame other people for their decisions if its not clear that there is a kid getting abused in any way. People are adults and not yours to criticsize if it doesn't affect you or a 3th entity which can't protect itself.

Its your personal opionion you can easily and should keep yourself.

I'm biased against this and you're biased towards it.

And your opinion is just as worthy of being kept to yourself.

It's not that you're against shame you just don't want your bad behaviors shamed.

Nope our viewpoints are not the same like a coin with two similiar sides.

I let people do what they want to do without projecting something onto them based of my values. So my viewpoint is openness.

Yours is the complete opposite. You project your values onto them. You are forcing something which doesn't affect you onto others. You want to control them.

Its like people who have a religion/believe say you also have to believe while i say i'm not allowed to push you into something like this.

And in my eyes this is not bad behavior at least not from the information i have. I would be concerned if and only if the kid would grow up without any parent.

I mean, 4 days and then she hooks up with your twin brother. Yes, I am shaming her.
Interesting bias to blame the woman. How do you know that the second twin wasn't taking advantage of their identical looks to convince the woman it was the same man she had slept with the first time? She may not even have been aware that he had an identical sibling.
Oh, I blame everyone who was aware.

If one brother was pretending to be the other I blame him more.

Maybe everyone was aware and consenting.