[nslsm]

Feeling bad about something you can’t change is bad for your mental health.

[matkoniecz]

Probably beats being in denial over it and pretending you like it.

And identifying problem you dislike is a good first step to find a strategy to solve it at least in part.

[JoshTriplett]

Deciding that you can't change something is the first and last step towards failing to change it.

[nslsm]

Which is not a problem if you choose not to worry about it.

[JoshTriplett]

"It's uncool to care about things" is, fortunately, not a compelling argument for people who care about things.

This tangent does not seem likely to go anywhere productive.

[0x3f]

You can care about things, but it seems preferable to care about that which you can change

[nslsm]

That’s a reductionist and wrong reading of the argument I made.

[JoshTriplett]

You said "can’t change". I observed that deciding you can't change something is self-fulfilling. Your argument from that point still relied on the assumption that you can't change it.

[nslsm]

Before you decide not to care about something, you are supposed to make a deep assessment to see whether you can change it. It is only after you’ve determined that the thing can’t be changed that you can choose not to care about it.

[primevaldad]

and naming your feelings is the first step toward restoration