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> Genuine question: (…) framing myself as a helpless victim

If you engage with the argument genuinely and steel man, you’ll see that is not what I said. I even emphasised it:

> some of it falls on you

You’re not a “helpless victim” but you’re also not fully to blame. Understanding that means understanding the problem and being more powerful to fix it. For example, if you’re addicted to TV or social media, you can make a concerted effort to improve your life by removing the problems at the external source (sell your TV, delete an account and app from your phone).