[rootsudo]

The biggest sign something is broken is when someone writes: "Thankfully, my mother died before the acquisition, and my father died last week, only a few months after the acquisition, so I don't have to deal with this any more."

Depressing to read. I'm not sure on which side.

[lisper]

To be fair, my mother had cancer and my father had Parkinson's, and that was a much bigger factor in their ultimate quality of life than any deficiencies in the retirement home they found themselves in. So I don't mean "thankfully" in the sense that "thankfully they died prematurely so they didn't have to suffer under their home's new management", I mean it, "Thankfully the natural course of their lives timed their deaths so that they were minimally affected by the new management."

But yeah, it kinda sucks, and not just for the residents who are still there. It sucks for the rank-and-file staff as well, most of whom still really care about their clients, but who now have to answer to people who absolutely do not care about anything other than money.

[master_crab]

I got what you were saying. I read it the same way. I’m sorry for your loss.

No one leaves this planet alive, and the best you can hope for is that the majority of your time is spent relatively healthy and independent.

[tsol]

I didn't read that as saying anything about your character; it's an understandable way to react. It is an indictment of the system that people have to feel that way when it really shouldn't have to feel that way.

[lisper]

> I didn't read that as saying anything about your character

I didn't take it that way, I just wanted to make sure there was no misunderstanding. This is an emotionally charged topic.

[e40]

I think most of us read it the way you meant it. Sorry for your loss.

The concern you raise is front and center for me, because my mother is 87 and we’ve been looking for a place. All the options are terrible, without considering PE.