[rawgabbit]

Where I live Medicare and Medicaid want people to live (and die) in their own homes. They send out nurses and nurse practitioners to you. That is what I want. After some research I realized the provider that I want which is UTSW in Dallas has a geographical radius that they serve. I am planning to eventually move to be within that radius.

https://utswmed.org/medblog/geriatrics-cove-team-makes-house...

[lisper]

That was my parents' original plan. But they were in denial about how much preparation would be needed to make that happen. They lived in a split-level house and my father had severe osteoarthritis in his knees. It's actually a miracle that he didn't fall and break his neck going up and down the stairs. But one day he fell in the shower and could not get back up, and that was the beginning of the end.

[Spooky23]

That’s totally doable and encouraged, as it’s by far more cost effective.

But you really, really need a support system of willing people who care about you, and are savvy enough to effectively advocate for you when you lose that ability. Independent home care works well when you need help, not constant care.

Our family worked with this for 6 years with my bad post stroke and for about a year with my mom and cancer. My siblings were all on board and my mom was uniquely positioned - she was a regulator at the state level who was adept with the rules (and had in fact wrote many!).

Even so, as things progressed it was hard. My mom was devoted to my dad, and filled every gap. We depended on hired help for mom, and despite the financial resources it was difficult to get staff.

Family and friends are key.

[yowayb]

This is going to sound a bit wild, and only viable under 70 or so, but I've met a lot of 55-70 expats in walkable southeast asian cities. There's obviously varying circumstances so do the research, but you can almost get adopted by your landlord family, where you're getting home cooked meals, rides, doors held open, etc. This part of the world is so family oriented, it just comes naturally to many of them.

[Spooky23]

Makes sense. If you travel regularly, you can see that in relative terms, the standard of living in the US has declined relative to many places.

[paulryanrogers]

It's a nice idea, though I hope I'm humble enough to vacate my house for a younger family that will make the most use of it. By which time I hope to be in a manageable apartment, or perhaps a group home where I can pass the time with others at a similar stage in life.

[a_t48]

For some (like one of my family members), circumstances are such that they need more social attention than the family/medical system can provide. That's one of the reasons we are considering.

[AbstractH24]

>Where I live Medicare and Medicaid want people to live (and die) in their own homes. They send out nurses and nurse practitioners to you.

In NY State at least that's turned into a cashgrab too. One they are having trouble reforming.