[Aurornis]

> Before I felt mostly invisible but since then got approached in bars all the time, which rarely happened before.

Physical attractiveness is extremely relevant in the context of cold approaches in a dating environment. I won’t disagree with you there.

However getting approached at bars is very different than working with someone in an office setting or having your papers graded in a university setting.

[johnnyanmac]

Its pretty much all that matters when we reduced dating to a profile pic and a swipe. You don't get to show off confidence or hobbies or way of life 99% of the time. Just a few seconds and a picture. The rest comes later.

>getting approached at bars is very different than working with someone in an office setting or having your papers graded in a university setting.

I wonder if thats changed, too. School is probably similar, but there's an increasing notion of "don't shit where you eat" that makes office romance difficult. I'm sure people will notice, but they may not want to approach otherwise.

[Jensson]

> Its pretty much all that matters when we reduced dating to a profile pic and a swipe

You can also list your job, that matters a lot more than your profile picture if you are a man, doctors easily get dates etc.

[johnnyanmac]

Sadly, listing "game developer" or "programmer" tends to have the opposite effect. We aren't "prestigous" enough to be carried by our jobs (despite making decent money), and we still get a lot of that old school "nerd" persona to boot.

I'd have better luck pretending to be an artist, despite my modeling skills being barely above "Hello World".