[diehunde]

Such a corny take. People should have kids when they know for sure they want to become parents. If they are unsure because the life they want for themselves seems incompatible, then it becomes a gamble. So many miserable parents out there who hide their experiences because they are afraid of social punishment or because they need to convince themselves that this permanent life-altering decision was the right one. That's my take as someone who for 35 years didn't want kids and one day woke up knowing for sure I wanted a kid in my family.

[redwood]

Do you honestly think those miserable parents stay miserable for the long term or might that be a temporary bump in the ride?

[mcdeltat]

Messing up your kid's life is a temporary bump? Plenty of dysfunctional/traumatised families out there, just look around...

[pm90]

Every parent “messes” up their kids life, its a matter of degree. Its part of the human experience.

[mcdeltat]

I think I see what you mean in terms of everyone having life difficulties. But I disagree because of cases where bad childhood environment causes/exacerbates significant issues with kids' wellbeing, such as mental health disorders. This is not something that everyone experiences as "part of life" right?