[syveen]

first ，stop telling story to yourself its a prison，second，treat this as a new chapter and accept the building adjustment，third，stop characterizing your self to a stable，static statue，instead，let it flow. last, don’t escape , don’t try to fix or solve anything, all such self talk points to same underlying thing - it’s a problem. No, it’s not, it’s a status. More intention of fixing it, more problems you would sense. no many suggestions，we carrying something while building something.

Edit to add few experiences.

I travelled alone and also travelled with my once-deeply loved boyfriend. I travelled for 11 days to other countries. I had most romantic days with that boyfriend in the travel, i took the travel alone as some evidence that I could live without him. And in that single journey, I met guys and had a few deep conversations with each one. I saw views I ignored when i was with him.

In the single journey, it’s still beautiful. Sense them, allow them.