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In other words, don't look for dates/jobs online, let your friends set you up. They handle the social proof both ways.

This is the danger of treating everything in life as transactional. If you are an anonymous coworker, employee, student, neighbor, citizen you are bankrupting your social capital. At the same time, if you are only engaged with others out of self-interest, it can backfire spectacularly when you are found out. Live authentically, take a genuine interest in others, play matchmaker and let others play matchmaker for you.