[webnrrd2k]

I don't think anyone is asking for perfect, I think they are asking for "good enough".

If I may be blunt, it sound more like you might have some self-esteem issues, or shame, or just plain immaturity.

[arcxi]

That implies they think some people (apparently the ones who eat takeout or don't go to gym), are just not "good enough" to have friends. It's an esteem for others issue.