[thrtythreeforty]

The one that took us the longest was (3). He knew he needed to go, knew all the steps, and would pee in his pants just to spite his parents.

It's really eye opening and frustrating to see children be stubborn just for the sake of it. They're literally still developing and it's normal, but they are just too young to reason with. You have to create the environment where positive feedback happens, and... wait a very long time for them to work it out.

[pinkmuffinere]

tbh I think this is an underappreciated aspect to human behavior in general. Adults will do the same thing, sometimes even if they are corrected as politely as possible (my coworkers pee in their pants just to spite me too!) I think a lot of our systems don't explicitly account for that. We have meetings where a "correct" decision is made, and then we immediately expect everyone to get over their ego and accept the decision. In my experience, alignment is greatly improved if there can be a buffer of 5-7 days after the meeting where the topic receives no discussion. People come back in a less emotional state, and suddenly play nice. Maybe the time away helps forget the emotions, while the merits of the different options are still remembered? It also helps to remove ownership of ideas, or even reassign the "good ones" to any potentially-butt-hurt parties!! It's dishonest but it works. Finally, just because I'm writing this doesn't mean that _I_ am immune from these, I see the same behaviors in myself.

Sorry for the soap box, just seemed somewhat topical.