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by a123b456c 113 days ago
There are two basic topics:

1. Talk about them. Start by paying attention to them. Then when you notice something that was clearly an intentional choice on their part, say something nice about it. Listen carefully to what they say, and follow up in response without filtering yourself.

2. Talk about us. Notice some aspect of experience that you are both sharing. The weather is the most popular and safest topic.