[latexr]

> or how to get labeled as a creep by every women

If you’re a man and go into it with the mindset of only talking to women, especially attractive ones, then of course that would get you labeled as a creep because it is creep behaviour. That’s not striking up a conversation with strangers, it’s hitting on women. You have to approach anyone equally. Address the attractive woman the same way you approach the old man on the bus stop.

[theultdev]

Talking to people you are attracted to is how the human race lives on.

And noone knows if you are talking to people "equally" they only know the conversation they are currently in.

I guess you could just hit on everyone. Old, ugly, whatever! Then you won't be a creep.

But in all seriousness, the difference between courting someone and creeping someone out is how attractive you are to them, not the other way around.

[jmye]

Bullshit. That's internet incel horseshit. Have an actual conversation. Get to a point where your sole, entire intention isn't just to con a woman into sleeping with you, and where you like, maybe want to get to know her. Lose the weird, internet pick-up artist intensity.

Like, do random men you talk to think you're a creep? If they do, then maybe it's time to get some life coaching. If not, maybe, just maybe, there's some subtle differences in how you approach people you see as sex toys vs. people you see as, you know, people.

[johnnyanmac]

>Get to a point where your sole, entire intention isn't just to con a woman into sleeping with you, and where you like, maybe want to get to know her.

But the point of this exercise isn't to make a deep friendship. It's practice. Is this article inherently creepy?

>Like, do random men you talk to think you're a creep? If they do, then maybe it's time to get some life coaching.

If they do, they're a lot better at hiding it. The big difference is in threat level. I don't see men nor women approach me and think "are they trying to hurt me/hit on me" as a default.

[haritha-j]

> But the point of this exercise isn't to make a deep friendship. It's practice.

Personally, that wasn't my takeaway. I thought it was more that you and the other person would get some joy out of the interaction. As in, conversations with strangers will be fun, even if you don't end up being friends.

[theultdev]

Where did I say not to have an actual conversation?

You can hit on someone and connect with them.

Be nice, connect, open up, share, listen, love. All that shit.

Then you'll get a wife, like myself. Good luck.

Or just make friends, or enemies, whatever floats your boat.

[mcdeltat]

I find it interesting how this comment says we should be socialising with everyone equally, and another upvoted comment elsewhere here says to modify your appearance to be more approachable.

So which is it?

[johnnyanmac]

So, trying to approach women is creepy. Got it.