You're moving the goalposts. A child's own mother will always provide cheaper and higher quality childcare than a disinterested third party, regardless of the sorry state of our economy.
Cheaper is very much not true if you value time. Devoting the entire workday of an adult to 1-3 children is a huge cost, much more expensive than having one adult handle 6-10 children.
And "higher quality" isn't guaranteed at all. Even with daycare the children are with their parents most of the time, and meeting up with other kids and a trained caregiver during weekdays has a lot of good effects.
God forbid men abandoned their families (children, wives) for selfish reasons. But they still do. It is not cool to be a single mother without a career, because you wanted women to be housewives by profession.
Those are mental gymnastics to justify extinction. There is nothing mysoginistic about the human reproductive and child rearing process that every generation of humans has followed from the dawn of our species up until about 20 years ago.
We are not building a society, we're building some kind of mass labor camp.
Which means eventually we're going to get a prison riot because people are tired of the conditions.