[wafflemaker]

Unless the kids have a feeling they should go off meds to get taller (like you did), isn't it better for them to be on meds?

Average first time for sex with adhd girls is 13y vs 17y for non adhd or medicated.

Probability to be addicted to drugs or alcohol halves for when on meds vs without.

Same goes for obesity, etc.

I didn't get meds when I was younger. Now I have top 1% IQ (likely average here on hn), but work as a butcher at a slaughterhouse. My mom didn't want to stigmatise me with a diagnosis.

Don't have time to finish the post, and I don't believe I'm entitled to anything. But if I had less problems at school, I might've been doing sth more fun now and less demanding on the body.

[danr4]

i did not stop to get taller, it just felt like crap. I think as you get older and more independent it starts messing with your sense of self.

is it better to be on meds? maybe i don't know. all i have is my experience. and looking back i'd much rather my parents told the school "fu im not giving my kid stimulants just challenge him" and to provide the challenge if the school didn't.

if you're top 1% (definitely not hn average), it's very likely you had "problems at school" simply because it was boring. don't know how old you are but with 1% there's really nothing preventing you from learning whatever it is you want to learn and go do something else.

[wjb3]

Now that you've realized all this, you could do something about it. Being a butcher in a slaughterhouse could become one of the things you used to do before you decided to do something else.

[snuxoll]

> I didn't get meds when I was younger. Now I have top 1% IQ (likely average here on hn), but work as a butcher at a slaughterhouse. My mom didn't want to stigmatise me with a diagnosis.

I really hope I'm not stating the obvious to you here, but don't let your current situation define you like it guarantees the course of the rest of your life.

> But if I had less problems at school, I might've been doing sth more fun now and less demanding on the body.

Even on Adderall in my teenage years, I fucked around in school - it didn't interest me, which is not uncommon in 2e individuals with ADHD. Dropped out at 16, got my GED a few years later, never went to college, resigned myself to the fact that I would be working class like my parents for the rest of my life.

But the right doors opened because I kept pulling at the knobs when I saw them, while the thousands of hours of my free time messing around with dozens of linux distros, writing toy programs for personal use, and a little bit of selling the unique talents my atypical neurology gives me, were enough to get me through one interview, and then the next.

The non-traditional path still very much exists in many fields, but it always starts at smaller companies that are less glamorous to work at, and often don't pay as well. None of us may be entitled to anything, but that doesn't mean we should resign ourselves to wasting our talents because the traditional paths didn't work out for our unique situations.

[rayiner]

> I didn't get meds when I was younger. Now I have top 1% IQ (likely average here on hn), but work as a butcher at a slaughterhouse. My mom didn't want to stigmatise me with a diagnosis

Yeah, get your kids diagnosed and get them medicated if they need to be. Adderall is one of the most well studied medications in the world. Whatever downsides there are pale in comparison to the academic and social downsides of untreated ADHD.