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"If anything a good catch is someone who you want to be with despite the fact they don't score well on your list of requirements."

Right on. I read about a social experiment (I think it was "Blink" or similar book) where before going on speed dating sessions people filled out a questionnaire prioritizing the requirements that they wanted in their ideal mate. After speed dating they ranked their dates and itemized their features.

It turns out that there was no correlation between what the subjects wanted or thought they want a priori and the features of the people they liked the most. When asked about this they just rationalized matching the contradictory data (they adjusted the people they liked to the old values or adapted the values to the people they liked, don't remember).