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by jiggy2011 4980 days ago
Wow, that's quite a list of demands.

Is this a more common thing with Japanese women, do they go into dating with a very specific set of criteria rather than "winging it" as western women would?

"Someone who plays at most only 1 hour of videogames a day, or at most only 30 minutes of TV."

Most good TV shows are at least an hour long per episode, I assume you have to split them over 2 days.

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> "do they go into dating with a very specific set of criteria rather than "winging it" as western women would?"

I find many western women are quite specific also, and men too. Treating potential mates as a checklist instead of unique individuals seems to be a global problem.

That is true, perhaps it is more an issue of how it is articulated.

When I look at female profiles on dating websites, I see western women say vague things like "I want a caring guy with a good sense of humour who knows how to treat a lady".

Whereas from asian women I see things more like "Between ages X and Y , minimum salary Z , must enjoy A, B and C".

I'm sure some western women have similar requirements but perhaps it is just more taboo to articulate them.

Some of the stuff on here seems very specific though, but I guess some of it must be somewhat tongue in cheek.

Ah yes, it really is a difference in articulation. I also don't see westerners expressing their "requirements" quite so bluntly, though from private conversations these lists certainly do exist, and are every bit as ridiculous.
I don't think it's a global problem; it's just asocial people who have little to none social/romantic experience, so they imagine their romantic life rather than living it.
It's not a real problem, those lists go out the window before the first drink is gone. Hers is actually quite good -- friends from school, own server, Drucker... they're usually much dumber than that (the lists, that is).
When she says 1 hour of video games or at most only 30 minutes of TV, I'm sure she means on average. So 7 hr video games a week or 3.5 hr of TV a week.

I interpreted it as "someone who doesn't ignore me".

Rather ironic point given that she works at a game company.

White women make up such lists of demands too, I have read several. It is sort of funny and sort of self-directed/self-indulgent. If you don't like it, then obviously you should not apply for the position ;)
That TV show demand doesn't make sense (what if you want to watch a game?)

Also, would it have made to betabeat if it was posted by a guy, instead of a girl?