[jll29]

I do not use WhatsApp, Instagram, or FB.

You pay a price (we miss many party invitations, only one friend consistently emails us and FB everyone else), but it's worth it.

Recently spoke to a colleague in Italy that told me he hates WhatsApp, but is forced to use it because the school of his kids in Rome use it as sole means to communicate, despite this being a legal violation (public organizations in Europe must use GDRR-compliant tools).

[lrvick]

If a school tried to demand me or my kid have a cell phone or use any proprietary software, or accept the terms of service of a private corporation like meta or google, I would absolutely sue them and turn it into a media shit storm if needed.

Many have done this and won around the world. People just need to stop being cowards.

[PlatoIsADisease]

I bought into something like this, removed all social media for 2-3 years.

I lost so many connections to people and it seemed to set me back multiple years on my goals. I thought it would make me more productive, instead my userbase got cut in half.

I'm never doing that again. Huge mistake.

[lrvick]

If your entire social graph only exists on proprietary platforms then cutting that all at once is going to be brutal. I had to be a loud advocate for open solutions, and had to lead by example organizing IRL events myself with oldschool email .ical invites that still work just fine.

Many of the most talented people in the world only exist on free open source platforms. Social media is not the enemy. Proprietary centralized stock price driven social media is the enemy.

Come hang out on #!:matrix.org or other great tech communities on Matrix, and/or get invested in networks like Mastodon.

[dotancohen]

I've lost connections with "internet friends" but I see my real friends more often than does the average person my age. I wouldn't have it any other way.

[lrvick]

Hear hear. The types of people that would stop being friends with you for not using proprietary software and platforms are the type of people that would stop being friends with someone for not eating meat, or some other ethical stance.

These are shitty shallow people, not real friends. Real friends will support, or at least tolerate, your honest ethics based lifestyle choices. Smart people often -prefer- being around people that think differently from them, and being different can even be an asset in making more smart friends.