[the_af]

I want to echo this.

And there's no solution. Nothing you can do, say, or not do or say will help. Even just listening will be perceived, after the umpteenth time, as condescending; and voicing your opinion is obviously a no go. It's lose-lose.

[saidnooneever]

the solution is mutual recognition and understanding, but as a problem solver its not satisfying as you cant implement it in your own way :'D