[IgorPartola]

Because social anxiety, typically. “What if the person tells me to fuck off? What if they make a scene of it?” Especially if six years ago you are the person who was in your teenage years, chances are your social skills are not what they could be if you didn’t spend a year in lockdowns.

Conversely, if you are the kind of person able to come up to a stranger and ask them (politely and respectfully!) to change what they are doing, you likely the person with the social skill to do other things well too.

[connorgurney]

I follow that, and it's something I've struggled with in the past, but doesn't this sort of solution make them more likely to tell you to fuck off or to make a scene, rather than less?

[IgorPartola]

Imagine you are sitting in public watching TikTok videos and someone sitting two seats down from you just turns on this app. Are you more likely to say “hey sorry mate I didn’t realize it was bothering you.” or are you more likely to turn it up louder and/or tell them to fuck off?

Now imagine the same situation but the person comes up to you and says “excuse me but would you mind turning your volume down a bit or using headphones? The sound from your phone is really bugging me and I would really appreciate it.” Which situation is more likely to piss you off?

And sure you might respond poorly to both but I see no universe in which you respond positively to the first while I think there is a good chance you respond well to the second.

On the other hand if the person approaches you and says “hey buddy turn that shit down”.. but the kind of person to use this 2 second delay thing in my experience would never have the confidence to do something like that so not even worth considering.

[groby_b]

What are they going to make a scene about? You playing audio loudly in a public space? They kind of ran out of legs to stand on a while ago.

[simonbw]

It seems harder to justify telling someone to fuck off for doing literally the exact same thing you're currently doing.

[Aurornis]

> Because social anxiety, typically. “What if the person tells me to fuck off? What if they make a scene of it?”

As opposed to building a tool to actively annoy them without politely asking them a question? This doesn't follow.

I doubt the tool was actually used.

[IgorPartola]

That’s my point. This tool is pointless because while it is designed to avoid confrontation it nearly guarantees it. A waste of bits, as it were.

[maximilianroos]

What did you think "building social skills" meant? vibe coded apps?

Gotta start somewhere!

[IgorPartola]

Just wait until Claude doesn’t want to be friends anymore and Alexa isn’t returning your calls. Siri will always talk to you but you don’t want to talk to her :)

[fortran77]

It's not social anxiety. It's fear of being shot.

[anigbrowl]

What a great society