[spydr]

> do you care about who your actions might affect

This one surprises me every time I fly. When I have the aisle seat I can be up and out in 10 seconds. It seems to make like everyone else will plop down , place down 3 different liquids on the tray and then take a nap. When I ask to use the bathroom I end up feeling like a nuisance

[mywittyname]

> When I ask to use the bathroom I end up feeling like a nuisance

It's your right to ask to use the bathroom whenever you need. And others have the right to use that little tray for their stuff when they want. (while allowed by the airline, of course)

[dewey]

You are describing exactly that phenomenon. Of course it's your "right" to do that technically, but is it a nuisance to others? Yes.

Just like smoking next to others (when allowed), or reclining your seat 100% in economy. Technically it's your right to just that.

[lostlogin]

People asserting their rights is a significant portion of the reason half the population seems angry.

[TeMPOraL]

The old problem of "just because you can, doesn't mean you should".

[Zambyte]

Tactfully ambiguous as to which half you think is asserting their rights and which half you think is angry.

[lostlogin]

Ha! Wasn’t intentional but also, I’m not sure.

[kimixa]

Yup, it's their right, as it's their right to crank their seat back. Both are available, and expected. I see some take issue with people doing them at all, but I don't really mind much. Might be related to being 180cm or so - about 5"11, when most complaining seem to be larger.

My issue on my original post isn't really them moving the seat, but the lack of notice. It would have taken barely a second to lean over the seat and let me know. But I suspect they didn't even think about how that might affect anyone else.

It would be kinda crazy if someone didn't say they wanted to get out to the aisle and just started trying to climb over you with no warning.

[hamdingers]

Selecting the aisle seat is consenting to be asked to get up, so don't feel bad for asking.

That said, 10 seconds is not a realistic expectation. Ask before it's an emergency.