[rayiner]

From an American perspective, it’s not the “rhetoric,” it’s just “noticing.” My mom is an immigrant who was not brought up here to absorb the rhetoric. But when she went to Canada and Australia to visit family, she came back ranting about how poor everyone was and how small the houses were. (I take it you have fewer suburban McMansions and giant SUVs.) It’s hard not to notice our GDP per capita is 50% higher than yours. It’s big enough now where we notice it just going up there to visit family.

And you can say what you want about safety nets for poor people, but that doesn’t affect most Americans. My parents are on Medicare and they head down to the ER every time have a stomach ache and get a CAT scan. Meanwhile my family is convinced that Canadian healthcare nearly killed my aunt when she had a kidney issue because they didn’t immediately schedule her for a million tests and surgery. (I suspect that isn’t true and the Canadian system reasonably triaged the care.)

And to be clear, I like Canada (and I love Denmark). I’d rather have a more orderly society with an efficient and expansive government that’s focused on comprehensive outcomes across the population, in contrast to our system where you have McMansions but randomly you can fall through a giant crack. But Americans temperamentally are biased towards upside potential and they devalue downside risk. This is a cultural trait that seems very quickly absorbed even by immigrants. My immigrant family isn’t meaningfully American in many respects—they don’t have Anglo sensibilities about things like civic institutions and personal freedoms—but they’re indistinguishable from other americans in their materialistic optimism

[palata]

> From an American perspective, it’s not the “rhetoric,” it’s just “noticing.”

Yes, but that does not go against the parent comment. When you grow up in it, you have it in you, and it's difficult to question it. If you ask Americans who live abroad, they often have a more nuanced perspective.

Apart from American finding it better in the US than everywhere else in the world (your "noticing"), there is this tendency from Americans to genuinely believe that the rest of the world agrees with that. "Everybody wants to live in the US because it is the best country in the world".

And this is very, very far from true. It's not just about money. The US have a lot of fossil energy, which is good for their economy, which is good for their military. The US is a big and rich country, which makes it powerful. But that is bad for the countries and people who are threatened by the US (and recently the US have been militarily threatening countries who until then were seeing the US as an ally or at least a friend), and it is bad for our survival (through the climate and biodiversity issues).

Tons of people outside of the US wouldn't want to live in the US, even if it meant earning more money. And on top of that, tons of people outside of the US feel threatened by the US, for good reasons.

[JumpinJack_Cash]

This comment underscores how mono-dimensional some people are.

To Rayiner more stuff, bigger stuff = happier and more fullfilling life. An incredible lack of depth.

That is also the reason why Americans when they go abroad are astonished and always come back saying "people are amazing" somewhere else, well no wonder considering the state of domestic affairs and domestic relationships between people.

Please offer my apologies to your mom , as it's true that our vehicles are dangerously underdimensioned , maybe next time something in the order of 10-15 short tons could be adequate to transport her to the nearest McMansion (or McDonald's rather).

[palata]

> An incredible lack of depth.

A more diplomatic way to say it would be that it is a different culture. And I would agree that Americans struggle to see that other countries have different cultures and different priorities.

If you believe that the goal in life is to live like an American, then obviously the best at doing that are... the Americans. The mistake is to not recognise that other people may have different beliefs.

[rayiner]

> To Rayiner more stuff, bigger stuff = happier and more fullfilling life. An incredible lack of depth

Please read my whole post! I’m a Europoor at heart. I live in a 3BR house with three kids and no yard despite being able to afford a bigger one. I drive an EV, and it’s not a Tesla. I’m just trying to convey my impression of American culture though the lens of my mom, who embodies this aspect of American culture quite strongly.

[verzali]

Even your idea of how the "europoor" live is a rather strange one.

[rayiner]

Do europeans live with three kids with less than three bedrooms?

[thomassmith65]

  COUNTRY: AVERAGE HOUSE SIZE IN SQUARE FEET 2025
  #1 Australia: 2,303
  #2 United States: 2,299
  #3 New Zealand: 2,174
  #4 Canada: 1,948
  #5 ...

https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/house-siz...

[sgnelson]

I would also expect that latitude plays a role in house sizes. Though I don't know. I think that'd be an interesting correlation.

[cmrdporcupine]

I honestly can't see a difference in housing sizes between Canada and the United States -- we've got the same McMansion sprawl all over the place here -- so strikes me this person's mother is just like every other human, and bad at statistics and handling their own biases.

The US does have a higher rate of wealth inequality than Oz and here in Canuckistan tho.

[thomassmith65]

Yes, that's why I found 'house size' a strange complaint. The three countries in question have comparable square footage - the largest-sized houses in the world.

[rayiner]

The inequality is what she’s reacting to. Most people in my extended family are professionals or business owners. That class has a lot more money in the US. Top 1% in Canada is $315,000 while in the U.S. that’s outside the top 3%.

[cmrdporcupine]

Yes, it's absolutely the case that people in our profession and adjacent do a lot better in the US than here.

And the situation for working class Canadians isn't great either right now -- housing prices have skyrocketed. Tariffs from economic warfare are destroying the labour market. There are many aspects about our situation that are inferior.

But guess what -- that has fuck-all to do with how we perceive the relative value of our country or the pride or love we have for our homeland and love.

No, the majority of Canadians don't see the US as the world's best country because the wealthiest there make more money than the wealthiest here.

I worked at Google in Waterloo for 10 years. At any point I could have packed up and moved to the Valley and transferred to Mountain View. I had jobs before that that could have taken me to the US on transfer, as well. I chose not to. Why?

During part of that time, after Trump was first elected, I saw lots of expat Canadians who had been working for Google in the US return and transfer back to our office. They came back and earned less, and the choice of projects in our office was slimmer. But they chose to. Why?

Love of country, of culture, of family, of nature, of the land, nostalgia, familiarity. What came up often when I spoke to people coming back was a strong distaste for the idea of bringing their children up in the American education system with its extreme degrees of inequality, status seeking, elitism around "Ivy League" and ranking of schools right from kindergarten. Values on the whole unfamiliar to the same degree among Canadians.

Expats in particular, and immigrants who primarily migrated for economic reasons... yes, I'd naturally expect them not to understand this POV. I even meet plenty of new (often temporary) Canadians using Canada as a convenient springboard before their "final" migration choice which is the US. Not sure I like that, but that's their choice.

My father is also an immigrant, from Germany. He came here for the nature / wilderness. He's intensely critical of the politics and economics here and where he lives in Alberta, and there's many things in those respects he prefers about Germany. But he has love of land, and Canada is his homeland, because of the peace and love he finds in the rivers, the forests, the muskeg.

I love my people and country I imagine in the same way or similar way Greenlanders love theirs. The size of the McMansions has no bearing on it. Canadians by and large don't walk around proclaiming theirs the best country in the world. We are not interested in our superiority. But we will defend our home, same as any other.

The original point stands -- to talk about "greatest country on earth" and then act baffled or smug about why others wouldn't want to join it -- is nothing but schoolyard bully logic. Like picking on the weird or weak kid in the playground, and then proclaiming that as a moral virtue. This Greenland stuff, and the rhetoric heard about Canada this past year as well, has exposed the very darkest underbelly of the US. One we have seen here many times over 200 years, but many Americans seem blind to.

[jacquesm]

I know some that did move to the US for economic reasons only that have moved back to Canada because of the way the US has changed during their time there.

[sgnelson]

"My parents are on Medicare and they head down to the ER every time have a stomach ache and get a CAT scan"

Your parents are part of the problem. The ER isn't supposed to be used that way.

[rayiner]

> Your parents are part of the problem

On so many levels!

[rjrjrjrj]

GDP is not a great measure of quality of life.

What are your Mom's thoughts on the US's poor life expectancy compared to Australia, Canada, etc?

[rayiner]

Why would she have thoughts about that? South Asian Americans like us have a life expectancy of 84.4 years, just a hair short of Japan.

[cmrdporcupine]

I take a drive through Detroit and I "notice" entirely different things which somehow your screed above is mostly blind to.

That's about as diplomatic as I can summon up as a reply to your comment, whose substance mostly proves my point about the bizarre exceptionalist world Americans seem to occupy in their heads. It really isn't "noticing"... what you're talking about. It's ideology.

Also GDP per capita is the kind of garbage metric I would expect someone frequent on this forum, and hopefully literate in statistics, to understand the ridiculousness of deploying in conversation.

Also, there's rarely anybody more invested in seeing the superiority of their new (chosen) place other than immigrants, so I don't think that's the argumentative flex you think it is.

[rayiner]

As I said, I like Canada! I’m just trying to explain the American point of view. For example, I care about Detroit. But your typical American doesn’t live in Detroit. The average new home is built in a booming, low tax, Sun Belt state like Georgia and Texas, where my cousins bought McMansions in the last few years.

Also, my cousin grew up in Windsor and having been there plenty of times, it’s shit too.

[ncruces]

Much of the world would have no problem with americans being in love with their McMansions.

But many would find them wasteful, and a terrible place to live, compared to a decently sized apartment (one 10m² - 100 sq ft - bedroom per person/couple and maybe an extra office) in a walkable town.

Just as we find american SUVs totally inadequate compared to our cars.

And it's not matter of cost, we're perfectly “happy” paying borrowing millions of euro for such apartments, and paying far more for our cars.

[jensgk]

> This is a cultural trait that seems very quickly absorbed even by immigrants.

Sure, for those who stay. If they didn't like the American way, they probably wouldn't stay. I have known many, who have stayed in the US for exchange, expat and science. They all had a great experiences, but no one wanted to stay as immigrants.

[anon291]

Same experience as the child of migrants. America has boundless optimism and integrates people well

Same experience with safety nets too. America has tons of welfare. Not sure why people have issues with it honestly.

[jensgk]

> Same experience as the child of migrants. America has boundless optimism and integrates people well

ICE??

> Same experience with safety nets too. America has tons of welfare. Not sure why people have issues with it honestly.

I am in my 50s, I have never seen a country as divided and toxic as the US, and that is for a reason.

[anon291]

Ice is inconsequential. They enforce immigration law and Europe is way stricter than the US. It's also much harder to integrate as European nations are ethno states (no hate.... Nothing wrong with it. Most countries are. Just a statement of fact)

> I am in my 50s, I have never seen a country as divided and toxic as the US, and that is for a reason.

So you lived from 1970-2020, literally the most peaceful time on the planet due to Pax Americana. If I were a European nation, I'd just give the US what it wants. Especially maybe try not to appear like they just want to desperately hold on to their colonies? I mean, where's the decolonization people when you need them

[jensgk]

> Especially maybe try not to appear like they just want to desperately hold on to their colonies? I mean, where's the decolonization people when you need them

Greenland’s path to independence is clear in law: only the people of Greenland can decide, by referendum. Denmark would respect that choice. So far, Greenland has not chosen to start the process. The decision is entirely Greenland’s.