[SideburnsOfDoom]

> I'm citing a medical doctor and clinical psychologist

I'll give you that one, because although technically you're not citing it here, you do elsewhere in the thread.

> you're saying "no it isn't"

I appreciate that you might not like those words, but they're literally your words, so.

> This is some Puritanical suffering-culture, or some one-upmanship manliness culture.

Pfft. I agree that quicker results are better, all other things being equal, but that's all very facile.

> The fix is trace that loop and find the sticking point,

Not everything is like that.