[normaler]

My mother is very similar to what you have described and mimicks some reponses of her to her ADHD situation pre-diagnosis/post-diagnosis.

She is also ~60 and accomplished in her professional,social and family life.

Pre-diagnosis she would reject suggestsions going into the direction of an ADHD diagnosis, due to her accomplishments being above average --> not possible to have a disability/neuro-divergence.

The achievements are her achievements, but the expense in the context of her capabilities was very high and quite taxing on her.

A diagnosis or even treatment is not making the person normal, but it can help provide that person with options to alleviate the expense of operating differently to the baseline.

I am very happy that you managed to have this success in your life so far and you made that happen.

But under your assumption that you have ADHD you might have made that happen against odds that would have been in part optional if you had access to treatment options.