[mise_en_place]

At the end of the day it's about integrity.

One of my relatives is an MtF transwoman now.

Her wife was the first person she told about it, and they are still together, with a daughter.

It was a little weird for me when I found out, but if her wife is OK with it, and they're providing a stable home for their daughter, I don't see an issue with it; not really my business.

The issue is being dishonest, for decades. That's the primary issue. There are always excuses, but living your life with integrity is of the utmost importance.