[moffkalast]

Well I doubt I'm going to bond by being subjected to painful boredom, and neither will they. I've found it's so socially common to completely forget all of these things people tell you in small talk too, because I'd remember every one of these facts about the other person due to low frequency interactions, while they'll be like "I've never met this man in my life" the next time I talk to them and I can't help but find that a bit hurtful.

[qrobit]

I think smalltalks just didn't bring you to the right topic, if you were to reach topic you both fancy, you would definitely remember each other. If anything, having a smalltalk is nicer than staying in awkward silence.

[acuozzo]

> I doubt I'm going to bond by being subjected to painful boredom, and neither will they

Which is why it's important to surround yourself with likeminded folk.

Nobody is compelling you to do this with every single person you meet.