[lukan]

"Household chores is massively underselling it. Like common, give her credit for everything she had done, which was quite a lot more then just household chores."

Like I said, it depends on the agreements they had. I have no problem giving her credit, my question was whether it makes Tolstoy bad.

"And he in fact broke the promisses he gave to wife (not to cheat with women in the village)."

That would be bad, but is that a solid fact?

edit:

"not to have any women in our village, except for rare chances, which I would neither seek nor prevent"

That is the quote from the article. Does not imply he broke it to me.

[kakacik]

Whats your problem grasping straws? The guy cheated his wife, plain and simple, even written in your own words. No defensible moral ground I can see.

Maybe you are fine with occasional cheat, maybe your subconsciousness desperately irons out wrinkles of reality to make looking in the mirror still a pleasant activity (like all other people doing bad things who are not complete sociopaths), who cares.

Its failure in one of most important aspect of life, undefendable, and generally looked down upon. Thats it.

[lukan]

Cheating implies lying and breaking agreements and I did not write that about Tolstoy. I see no cheating, if the agreements were made upfront in a different way. And no promises broken from Tolstoy as far as I know. With even sharing his diary, he seemed to be have been crystal clear and open about everything from the start, or do you have different information?

What promises and agreements he did break?