[wiseowise]

> - Asshole: "Do you have an Argentinian malbec from 1998-2000, from the so and so valley?" -> you spend a lot of money and like the wine, or you are unhappy because they don't meet your asshole preferences

So asshole is having preferences that don't fit the norm? If they don't impose their standards on you, and do not act a snob, why do you care?

[deadbabe]

In general, you should avoid putting people in positions where they have to admit their inadequacy to fulfill your preferences.

A better question is to first ask what they have, and see if there is reasonable expectation they can fulfill something so exact.