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Good God! My wife got cancer last year and I managed to stay on a very stressful contract gig until the end of the year, but after that I realized how burnt out I was and how much I needed to just focus on her recovery, which was going to take way longer than the FMLA-allotted 12 weeks and so I had to swallow a lot my pride and just quit and focus no caregiving. It's now almost a year since the stem cell transplant and there have been a lot of ups and downs, including 2-3 hospitalizations, but right now she's doing fairly decent. It's just that my career is wrecked. Part of me doesn't even care because I've been doing tech stuff for about 30 years, it's just hard to give it all up suddenly.

My advice to this gentleman is to just stop doing all that stuff, enjoy the family, keep jogging, and let the world turn. It's what I have have had to learn to do. I even went to a few therapy sessions recently, but it didn't help me that much even though I'm trying to give it a chance. It's because I was always all about the mission--the next project, the next all night troubleshooting session, whatever the challenge was, and sitting still doesn't suit me, but I'm learning.