[muhuk]

I would probably do the same thing, I would probably not report the child of my friend to authorities.

But looking at this as a third person; I think he got away too easily. He did something evil, he got caught and what are the consequences? A slap on the wrist.

[zainny]

That's the problem with the "loving community will fix everything" theory in a nutshell.

Parents or friends of a person who is dangerous to society will turn a blind eye, be more easily coerced, manipulated, etc.

A loving community will see the signs of recovery in a person, not because there is necessarily any, but because it's what they want to see.

[rooshdi]

There are outliers, but love has contagious qualities in most instances.

[tinco]

What kind of persons downvote this comment? (please someone argument this I am really curious why this happened)

[nathanb]

I didn't downvote, but an assertion coupled with waffle words and with no citation doesn't add much to the conversation. Phrasing it as "in my experience, love is contagious" would at least frame the comment more accurately (individual experience and opinion versus universal axiom).

[rooshdi]

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_XRzC81zNSrw/S7o1lS1RzSI/AAAAAAAAAf...

[infinite8s]

Except the outliers, as you mention, in which case nothing will help. True psycopaths cannot be reformed.

[Tichy]

If he has any connection to his parents at all, the embarrassment of being outed in front of his parents might be more than just a slap on the wrist.

Also, is this the "an eye for an eye" theory of justice? Personally I hope that my kid will behave in a good way because he considers it the right thing to do, not because he is afraid of punishment.

[unreal37]

It's not an eye for an eye. But it is actions and consequences.

If you take an extreme crime (like murder), I don't think you'll find many people who would say "there should be no consequences to that as long as the person is truly sorry for what they did". There must be some level of punishment, and there will be disagreement about what the appropriate level is.

Now this was not murder, but it was true terror over a period of 4 years. Do those actions have consequences? Or just give him a hug?

This 17 year old has problem, and he needs intensive psychological counselling at the very least. He didn't know why he did it? It was just a game? Those are scary answers and the problem needs to be fixed.

At least having him in the police database, fingerprints, IP address records, reports from his counselling sessions - would make it easier for someone else to catch him next time he does this. The next person he does this to will be starting from scratch trying to find out who this was, like the author was 4 years ago.

[karategeek6]

There seems to be an implicit assumption in your statement that either the only meaningful type of consequence comes from the authorities or that the parents will not enact any type of consequence themselves. Considering the reaction of the parents, I think it is quite likely that they will/did provide consequences more severe than a slap on the wrist.