[Doxin]

> if you're still in the "the problem is other people" phase

While I'm sure there's plenty of people who adhere to that theory, I'm worried you're getting that confused with the theory that a bunch of handicaps (among which is autism) are mostly just handicaps because the world isn't accommodating them.

You can imagine if everyone in the world was in a wheelchair it'd be real easy to get around in a wheelchair. Similarly if everyone in the world had autism it'd be much easier getting around having autism.

Whether you like it or not, to people with autism "other people" are a large part of the problem. Having sensory issues around shaking hands isn't inherently a huge problem, but fuck me if people don't make it a huge problem. Your options are basically to either have people think you're a gigantic asshole or to be deeply deeply uncomfortable whenever it comes up.