[mapontosevenths]

> societal pressure to behave like a grown-up.

I think this is the key.

It might be legal, but it's not polite. It's a bit like blasting crappy music from your phone on the bus without headphones. Grown ups should know better.

[maxehmookau]

> It might be legal, but it's not polite.

Too many folks forget this.

Do what you want, but I'll tell you if I don't like it. Others might too.

They're not infringing on your rights, but it might make you a little uncomfortable.

[Forgeties79]

People like the guy I encountered are basically allergic to discomfort of any kind. Even the slightest inconvenience in their lives is seen as an incredibly personal and intolerable affront to their liberty, and they want to make damn sure we all know about it at every possible opportunity! Hence the behavior.

If I were to compare it to a client relationship, it’s the kind of person who throws the contract in a partner’s/client’s/vendor’s face anytime there is a minor disagreement or discussion about details. Reasonable people know you only start pointing to the contract when things escalate to a certain point as it locks everybody into a defensive posture and now everybody is going to be rigid moving forward.

[maxehmookau]

> Reasonable people know you only start pointing to the contract when things escalate to a certain point as it locks everybody into a defensive posture and now everybody is going to be rigid moving forward.

First, and arguably most important, thing in learned in tech & business. Once the contracts come out, it's game over.

[Forgeties79]

I know when I freelanced if somebody started frivolously pointing to the contract I immediately determined I wasn’t working with them anymore afterwards. Luckily I can only recall like two times that happened