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by eli_awry
5016 days ago
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Regret is different than doing something that didn't turn out well. I have made plenty of decisions that caused a great deal of suffering - but they made me who I am. I think what I would regret would be if I made decisions that didn't make me into a better, more interesting person. Better to have loved and lost, and all that. I guess that whether regret-minimization is a useful framework depends on how precisely we define regret. I am risk-seeking, I fall down a lot, but I never regret anything. |
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And if you-then hadn't made those decisions, that would have helped to make you-now a different you.
Unless you value being "who you are" instead of "who you might have been" more than you care about the suffering you caused, it's not clear to me why you shouldn't regret those decisions. (Note, I'm not saying you shouldn't prioritise your values like that, especially if it was mostly you who was suffering.)
This is mostly nitpicking. I agree that there's a difference between "I regret doing that" and "I regret not doing that".