[fellars]

agree, except that with recruiting anyone you want to date is almost always in an existing relationship so you have to first convince them to break up before you can start dating, thus making it even more complicated.

We actually took many principles from online dating services to form betacave.com and think we have a solution that can suffice the needs of both parties (the site is up and functional but not quite ready for primetime; I'll do a formal Show HN next week, but was too relevant to this thread to not share).