[cblum]

FWIW, I’m not in NYC, but I’m in general a “ban the cars” type and have a wife and kid. We’re intentionally raising the kid in the city because we believe it’s a richer cultural environment than suburbs, and also because we both grew up in cities in our respective countries.

[cyberax]

Now try getting 2 more kids.

Large cities are OK if you have one kid. They completely break down once you have 2-3 kids.

[ido]

Do we really need to do this with each comment adding another rule and another reply from someone breaking it?

I live in Berlin with my wife and 2 kids (who were born lived their whole lives in Berlin). We all bike and take transit. Neither me nor my wife even have a driver's license. We're doing fine. We know plenty of other families with multiple kids in the same situation.

[bmicraft]

You really need to explain why you think that's the case.

[jaas]

I know lots of parents in NYC (where I live with multiple kids) and their lives have not “broken down.” What an absurd statement/generalization.

[lurking_swe]

ok, if we’re hypothetically thinking of someone that wants to have lots of sex / kids, then yes! A larger home makes certain things _easier_ for sure. No denying that!

But it may not be much “better” long term because you’ll be buying mini van(s), paying for gas, car insurance, higher property taxes, etc. All that extra cost adds up and could easily be put toward upgrading to a larger apartment instead.

And remember, 3+ kids is FAR from the norm in 2025. It’s not 1970s…so this is a really pointless argument.

[throw0101a]

> Large cities are OK if you have one kid. They completely break down once you have 2-3 kids.

Maddy Novich, https://www.instagram.com/cargobikemomma/, for one, may disagree with you. She has three kids IIRC. Interview:

* https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5PoKcQRlDGs