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by ghoul2
273 days ago
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I don't agree. At all. My father is right now in a very bad state: he can't recognize me, doesn't know if he is at home or in the hospital, is being fed thru a tube, and entirely dependent. He no longer has the mental ability left to decide on this on his own, but if he were, I am sure he would choose to go rather than live like this. He is not in excessive pain - he just has nothing left that can be called "life". Unfortunately, in the place we live, there is no legal framework for choosing this anyway. So he is unable to chose, and I am unable to chose for him either. I absolutely hate to have him be in this state - such a brilliant man, reduced to this. He had a (brain)stroke, and my grandfather on the mothers side also died of a stroke. So genetically speaking, my chances look (relatively) bleak. I know for a fact I won't want to go-on if I ever reach anywhere as bad as his current condition. But there's no option available to me either. I will have to suffer similarly, and the people I end up being dependent on will have to suffer similarly and watch me suffer similarly. I think being able to decide when you want to "go" is and should be a fundamental right - a natural right - every person should have. And we would, if it weren't for this false religious crap being foisted upon the world. |
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He was born to poor parents, and the eldest of 7 children. His father could never have paid for his education, but he has brilliant from the very start, and they lived in a village town, where the school had been built by a kind, local rich man, and my father studied his entire life on scholarship. He was the first person from his district to earn a masters degree (in electronics), and in his era, his bachelors and masters were each earned from the very top university of the country. Again, all on scholarship. Started a job as a professor, but quickly switched, first to a premier research labs, working on the very first satellites/payloads built in my country, and then later to being a technocrat in the state government: his qualification and ability were so high that he joined as the ranking technocrat of the state, and remained that till his retirement. Right around his job change, he got married and had three children - me and my two sisters.
During all this, he also earned an executive MBA.
After retirement, he didn't feel like sitting idle, and started a new career as the head of department (for two departments: computer engineering and electrical engineering) at a good, well regarded engineering college/university. He did this for 12 years, when he had a brain stroke, and then I asked him to not work anymore.
He recovered from the brain stroke, but more strokes/falls happened at a steady pace. He passed away at 79. The end was pretty painful, and I wish he had not had to go thru all that.
He lived a simple, harsh life - He never cared for comforts, or money, or luxuries. But he was genuinely content. In the end, all he really asked for was to "lets go home" (from the hospital). Fortunately, we did manage to get him discharged and his final few days were at home.
be at peace, pop. I love you.