[igleria]

When time came for my incapacitated-by-stroke father to move after we sold the family house to his new apartment, he did exactly this:

> they want to evaluate every single item

I almost gave up on him and only resumed when he was literally crying for me to come back. Did not regret coming back.

When he died 5 years later, my poor mother needed WEEKS to throw away all the useless shit he had accumulated in his apartment. Then I did regret not being harsher on him, but he was mentally and physically ill.

To anyone reading this: You are not the only one being hurt when you are a hoarder. Let people help you.

[ninalanyon]

I suspect that many hoarders know this deep down. But the effort required for them to change their own behaviour is so great that they, most likely unconsciously, dismiss the harm it does to others as a lesser evil.