[Yoric]

> Abuse is essentially addiction to control or anger

That's an interesting formulation. I have someone in my family who could be described by these words.

Is this your own description or does this come from somewhere?

[growingkittens]

Additional note. Since it is my own description and it sounds familiar to you, if you want to discuss it further my email is in my profile.

[growingkittens]

It is my own description, based on patterns I've seen over my lifetime.