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by anal_reactor 294 days ago
The problem is, in real life you're unlikely to find yourself in a situation where your needs are met, or at least have an action plan how to get there. There are tons of things that go wrong and you can't do anything about that. Stuck in a shitty job? Sucks to be you. Marriage drains you emotionally? Sucks to be you. Mother is sick and you need to take care of her? Again, sucks to be you. "Find a passion" is actually a ridiculously unrealistic standard - most people really do spend their free time just scrolling TikTok.

I'm really really tired of people throwing solutions at my problems while one of the problems is that I'm fundamentally profoundly tired of trying and failing.

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Yeah, burnout is hard, and real. Everything you've described, I've literally been in an equivalent. To get out of these ruts requires a sober assessment of where you are and some hard decisions, and maybe the end result is acceptance for someone in your case. As I said, it's belief that drives this, and you do have ultimate control & choice over your beliefs.

For many tho, what I said is a revelation and it can save them from yet another ineffective pomodoro exercise. Many are not middle aged people stuck in a hard place and this advice helps them.