[UnoriginalGuy]

How are you even measuring "smarts?" This seems like more of a personal problem in terms of your perception than a real problem that needs "solving."

As long as the two of you are roughly on the same "level" in that you can have a decent two-way discussion about things you are both interested in; I cannot see how this would ever be an issue.

Also, your self-esteem takes a knock every time you meet someone you deem "smarter?" If that's true then you will struggle to ever reach your potential as you will likely either run-away or get depressed whenever you near your limits.

So I guess what I am saying is: This is an entirely a personal problem. You have created this problem in your head and that is the only place it can be solved. If meeting smarter people, including dating them, really impacts you this badly then you seriously need to work on that (maybe grab a self-help book or go talk to a professional).

I think this problem is far bigger than this one instance or dating...

[DrorY]

I don't have a problem working with people who are smarter than me. I work with them quite often actually. The problem is when it comes to an intimate relationship. I actually do not think we are on the same level. I think that my level is quite alright, but she very much tops it.