[contumace]

You would certainly prefer to be the smartest. Do you feel threatened ?

[DrorY]

It feels threatening knowing that your partner is always right, and thereby when you argue makes you always (mostly) wrong.

It also feels threatening knowing that she's capable of doing whatever it is you're doing just better.

[hasenj]

Are you intimidated by her?

Are you sure she's smarter? Maybe she's just more assertive and/or forceful?

[DrorY]

at times I do get intimidated