[nuancebydefault]

I recently realized that I had lingering old pains and those were triggered by someone going through a similar experience and I literally felt their pain. It took me a lot of digging in my mind, peeling off layers, to understand even what the root pains are.

Sending a message to someone and potentially not getting any (meaningful) back is something I find very hard to accept, though I know not responding is often not on purpose.

For me, it is not so much about an electric fence, more about a feeling of rejection or abandonment that seems really hard to eradicate.

[stroz]

The fear of no response is real. It's not about logic, it's about old wounds. What helps is sending messages with zero expectation. Treat it like throwing paper airplanes. Some fly, some don't. And that's completely ok!

The ones that don't fly aren't rejections, they're just physics.

[nuancebydefault]

Thank you stranger, for this valuable metaphor! I'm on it!