[swaggyBoatswain]

Friendships come and go over the years is something I have learned in my life. We dont always have the same value systems and because of that, its natural to drift apart and not talk as frequently as we used to

This is something I am learning as a late bloomer in life, as I didnt have too many friends more so business acquaintances growing up

The hardest lessons I hace learned though is during major life transitions - sometimes you are off on your own, you have to manage that transition yourself and cannot rely on anyone in particular through it

Friendships require work but sometimes they arent on equal terms either, and when things shift away that created that strong bond to begin with, people drift apart. Thats something that is hard to cope with, that sense of loss in wanting that nostaglic connection again

[pjerem]

If that can help you, I learned that most "gone" friendships are not really dead and can be reactivated.

I’ve talked back to a few friends I lost for years and it was hard because I’m actually pretty sensitive to rejection. To what should not be my surprise, not a single one rejected me and all of them where happy to be in contact again.

And you can even re grow friendships. Actually one of my best friends today is someone I lost contact with for about a decade. This relation was so lost to me that I didn’t even bother to invite him to my marriage. And now we see each other every week since the last 5 years.

That’s one case where I did the effort to build back the relation. But that was worth it and was way easier than a new friendship.

It looks like if anything is universal it’s both that most people somehow miss their old friends and that most people are feeling more or less lonely.