[throwaway290]

The historic lesson is that men and especially men in power commonly abuse their position ranging from harassment to rape and legal system will fall over itself to serve them. That lesson led to metoo and stuff. Look it up.

> This is shuffling which innocent gets to suffer, but is not fixing anything.

Bro I really really hope you are not trying to compare wrongful cancellation and rape.

[Jensson]

> Bro I really really hope you are not trying to compare wrongful cancellation and rape.

You have to compare such things. A cancellation if strong enough has ruined your entire social life, all your friends and family now shuns you, that is worse than rape. Of course a "cancellation" which is just some posts online and stays online is not a big deal, but some victims of false accusations do get their entire social life destroyed. Historically rape did lead to such cancelations for the woman, she was no longer fit for marriage and was seen as used goods, so then it was worse of course, but we no longer see it that way.

[throwaway290]

They are comparable but the outcome of the comparison is not what you think it is. Even in an individual case.

And then remember that wrong cancellations are super, super rare compared to the scale of violence men commit most of which is never reported.

> we no longer see it that way.

Who is we? Many people are still religious (in UK for example more than half of people and growing) but even without that remember this is a physical assault and a major black mark on your ENTIRE life that you have to deal with even if you move abroad and not a single soul around you knows what was done to you, ruinous psychologically and causing destructive behaviors, making you intuitively scared of men. And meanwhile the biggest consequence men suffer, like this guy, is "I lost my way of making money because everyone in Scala community hates me". The number of ways to deal with it, move, change your community, change your name.... he mentions some of them himself. And for a rape victim, none of that works, it's just with you until you die.

This shit requires healing that for some never happens. And for the perp it's just inconvenient logistics (and only IF one victim is brave enough to speak)

This is an insane conversation but I will continue because again the only way to avoid innocent men from a cancel is to try to get more men to understand how this is fucked up beyond belief.

[SkiFire13]

> The historic lesson

_The_ lesson? As in, there's no other lesson? Pretty convenient ignoring everything else if it doesn't fit your goal.

> Bro I really really hope you are not trying to compare wrongful cancellation and rape.

The base difference is really between cancelling someone or not giving a victim the relief that the perpetrator got punished, since if the crime already happened you cannot undo that, however I can see why this doesn't include punishing someone as a deterrent for others to avoid performing similar crimes in the first place.

On comparing wrongful cancellation and rape however, have you ever tried imagining yourself losing your friends, your job, your house, all your savings etc etc for something you didn't do? This is torture, most people would go crazy from it, at least I would. Can you even begin recovering from this? Not to downplay rape, but at least rape victims get recognized as such, get help and support from other people and have some chance of at least partially recovering.

[throwaway290]

"The" means the lesson we are talking relevant to this sort of circumstances, not the only lesson:)

> since if the crime already happened you cannot undo that

Prosecution is not just making victim feel okay but making it very damn clear to others thinking of doing it

> have you ever tried imagining yourself losing your friends, your job, your house, all your savings etc etc for something you didn't do

It sucks a lot if you are innocent but as I said in another comment it is still a big inconvenience by comparison. Did he even lose a house? in the letter he just said he can't pay rent. move in with parent, solved

Saying in these cases "we must believe the man" is not OK because we all know 9 out of 10 times it is a man. Saying "hard proof or it didn't happen" is not OK because the way this crime works unless you put entire society under cryptographically signed cctv 100% of the time so that you have proof what everyone did when. Even just online as soon as government makes a sound about e2ee chats every techbro (almost always it's a bro, coincidence) goes bananas. So yes this is the alternative and it sucks but is the least bad if you are privacy conscious.

What we can do is work to have this not happen. Goading "don't put your dick in crazy" (where not crazy = a victim who shuts up) like in comments of this thread is not how you do it tho

[SkiFire13]

> It sucks a lot if you are innocent but as I said in another comment it is still a big inconvenience by comparison.

Getting your life destroyed is not just an "inconvenience", it's psychologically devastating and the fact you consider it acceptable is seriously fucked up.

[throwaway290]

Nah yeah sorry, it's an inconvenience compared to the other side. "life destroyed" you can always switch communities, move, change your name etc, all the options and even he named a few of them. There is not even a criminal charge. all the doors are open to you. Borrow a credit.

On the other side if you got raped, you live with it until you die.