[loughnane]

I agree with you that OP is being overprotective, but its natural that we all draw slightly different lines about what's appropriate when.

FWIW, when (spoiler alerts) the little girl gets her feet cut off in red shoes my 8 and 10 year olds were shocked at the turn events, but hardly shaken. Likewise when the little match girl died in the cold they were sad, but not permanently so.

It's the same deal with grimm fairy tales, or even pinocchio (pinocchio gets hanged).

[BizarroLand]

Or the little mermaid, where she failed to get the prince to fall in love with her and fell into the sea, dying and turning into sea foam.

[bazoom42]

She doesn’t turn into sea foam though, she turns into an air spirit, getting the chance of an immortal soul, which is what she was after.

[BizarroLand]

I clearly remember the version I read having her throw herself off of a cliff and turn into sea foam. It was a very sad ending that stuck with me.

It must have been an abridged version or something that skipped the redemption arc, like this:

"In the end, the Prince marries another, a girl he thinks is the girl that saved him, but of course, isn’t. And the little mermaid is given the opportunity to win back her life with her family, to return to life as a mermaid, if she can kill the Prince as he sleeps. But, she loves him, and so she can’t.

Instead as part of the bargain she made with the sea witch, she dies, turning into sea foam."

That left off the redemption arc:

But here, Andersen is able to deliver the ultimate judgment. Instead of simply perishing as sea foam as other mermaids do (we are told earlier that, unlike humans, mermaids do not have afterlives), the little mermaid becomes a daughter of the air. In exchange for her goodness, for her suffering, and her loyalty, she is given the chance to win immortality, to win an immortal soul.

https://thecuriousworthy.com/2017/03/30/the-original-little-...

[selimthegrim]

I think that’s basically the ending in the Czech film version too

[xxs]

>grimm fairy tales

Indeed, Max and Moritz ending up in the meat grinder (literally). Also reminds me of 'little riding red hood' originally lacks a happy ending at any rate.

(As for age, I think I was 6-7 when I first read Han C. Andersen)

[Mlller]

“Max and Moritz” is not Grimm but Wilhelm Busch: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Max_and_Moritz

[xxs]

Thanks! Indeed! I guess I have read the stories together, same book pretty much.

[FridayoLeary]

Those are absolutely horrific endings. They would have given me nightmares as a kid. I guess if your kids can handle it then great there's no need to coat them in bubble wrap.

[MangoToupe]

> They would have given me nightmares as a kid.

This is not always the easiest thing to guess. The things that gave me nightmares were people looking at me through mirrors (i.e., Snow White), animal brutality (which featured prominently in 90s family movies), and adoption (i.e. getting adopted into the "wrong", abusive family). Meanwhile I ingested astonishingly violent material and slept like a baby. I think it's hard to figure out what kids will identify as fantasy and what they'll see as a real, yet-unknown risk.

[Exoristos]

I had access to no entertainment and only selected books, but still regularly had nightmares -- about my parents.