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> write a story and try to get your friends to critique it and you will find that it's very hard to get honest feedback

I was one of the friends critiquing another friend's writing, and we did so honestly-- after we were done, he never spoke to us about writing again. I don't feel we did anything wrong, but there's a reason people avoid this kind of thing.

Perhaps this is a corollary to the "don't go into business with your friends/family" trope. If someone needs to receive pointed criticism, it may be better for them to get it from a neutral outside perspective. Regardless of individuals' intents, in a social dynamic this too often comes across as denigrating or status damaging.