[louwrentius]

It's very hard. Teenagers will teach each other to circumvent any of this within seconds. It's as old as the internet.

But maybe it would be healthier if you discuss this topic with your 12-year-old. The reality is that they'll be able to find any kind of pr0n within seconds when they has access to an unfiltered computer or phone.

At age 12 it's also expected that you start the transition from a child to an adult, so trying to block the outside world isn't preparing them for the freedom they'll encounter at 18-21.

The idea that there is even a definition of 'healthy' porn seems ludicrous to me. That's not 'really' tackling the problem. That's not understanding the problem in the first place.

Speaking of which: there isn't a problem in the first place.

[ta1243]

They're really not interested yet now and get annoyed when other kids in the class post it

It's about being able to control and monitoring in the real world, where unlike the 90s the "family computer" isn't the thing in the corner of the living room.

There's 6 more years before they're an adult, 4 more years before they can legally have sex, and typically at least 4 years before they start heavy petting, plenty of time to transition.

Someone on their first driving lesson isn't dropped in the middle of the arc de triumph and told to drive to Rome, it takes a lot of lessons to get that far.

[spacemadness]

You might want to rethink your perceived timeline for how sexuality works in practice for teenagers if you’re waiting to talk to them on schedule. Source: was a teenager.

[ta1243]

You clearly have no idea about parenting if you think all you have to do is have "a talk"

Healthy is a continual conversation from aged 8 through 18

[spacemadness]

I never said anything of the sort. You just seemed to be on a strict timeline. Have a nice day and good luck.